Sunday, January 31, 2016

Real Life - Reality Check

A friend I follow on Twitter pointed me to this. I think its fantastic, so I wanted to share it. Since I interact with Muslims in India regularly...and think they are some of the most generous, kind, helpful and hospitable people I've ever met, I wanted to share this.


In a day and age where stereotypes and critiques are ruling the media, I feel this is a good alternative - a dose of reality that is being missed. It takes the discussion about ethnic relations to the next level...how am I...how are you interacting with others who are different than you? I encourage you to view some of the videos this YouTuber has uploaded. Some good stuff.  The video (link above) takes the conversation away from politics and economics to simply relating to people who are different than us who live right next door. I think this is where most of us live. For me, the issues being faced by us, normal, every-day citizens, is How are we going to interact with people on the streets, in our neighborhoods, at work and at the mall?  Yes, there are larger issues involved, but candidly speaking, I'm not involved in those arenas daily and I doubt you are either [political involvement aside]. So, keeping the conversation about our personal interaction with people who are different than us, I'm grateful for this video being out there.

Thanks for posting Murad Amayreh! ;-) 

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Great site for understanding living in a different country!

Check this out! Living an Expat Life

As I relate with family 'back home' I often forget usually they don't have the foggiest of how to relate with the living situations my family finds ourselves in. This one post of Amanda van Mulligen's is great at touching on this subject.

RE: 4 Expat Challenges Living Abroad

1. Living Life in a Second Language
2. Emergencies and Illnesses Back 'Home'
3. Living Between Two Worlds
4. Celebrations and Parties

It's a great read from a good write. I'm glad to have stumbled up on her blog. ;-)




Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Multi-Cultural Identity - crisis to

Bill's Take- Aways from 
Raising Global Nomads” by Robin Pascoe © 2006 

Raising our family abroad has had significant challenges as we've tried to adapt to 'back home' every few years.  Robin Pascoe's insights are great. I highly recommend this one!  I found this very useful when interacting with 3 of our children who've returned to the US after 15+ years abroad.


 Profile of a Global Nomad            page 17ff
  1. Alert, intelligent and geographically aware
  2. Mature, sensitive and skilled at listening
  3. Likely to exhibit tolerance and cross-cultural understanding
  4. Flexible and open to change
  5. High Achieving
  6. Drawn to careers associated with service to the community or the world

Challenges for the Global Nomad  pg 21ff
·        The oversees experience makes them feel different
·        They gravitate to others like themselves
·        Issues of adolescence and rebellion are delayed
·        A migratory instinct can take hold
·        Feel rootless and restless, as if they don’t belong anywhere
·        Have issues of unresolved grief
Someone is always leaving – a best friend or a favorite teacher – and grief can be experienced even when children leave a place they didn’t particularly enjoy; at least it had become familiar and comfortable 


“The move can upset how the family relates to one another. As in any crisis, it takes time for a family to re-stabilize. An more than just time, honest communication with one another, flexibility, and the ability to sit back and laugh about it will be very helpful.”   Pg 61

I feel there is a greater sense of loss and disorientation for children when they move. page 63

 Stages of ID Development  - Being and Becoming   Pg 215ff


1.      Pre-encounter – before identity exploration begins –  Global Nomads are just living their internationally mobile lives, not thinking about how those lives are shaping who they are.  Yet it’s their experiences during this time that ultimately fuel their search for identity congruence. 

2.      Encounter – wakes up to the fact that they are different from others specifically because of growing up globally. Forces self-reflection, become curious about who we are and how and why we move through the world as we do. “When we went back to __________, which I’d always thought of as home, but when I got there, I realized it was Mars.”

3.      Exploration ‘national identity’ “What does it mean to me to be a citizen of this country on whose passport I travel?” How do my worldview and values differ from or run parallel to those of my homegrown peers?  Repatriation is so typically an identity encounter experience, and that’s why national identity is so typically a key ingredient in the Global Nomads’ identity exploration.” This can be a prolonged time of figuring things out.

It’s really “ok to be BOTH/AND rather than EITHER/OR”
when it comes to culture identity.So, it’s ok to tell folks,
[adapted from what she wrote]
I’m a TCK – having grown up in India and now in the US. 
I’m American with an overlay of international interests, experience,expertise and allegiance.

4.      Integration – A place of congruence. We understand who we are in terms of our intentionally mobile lives: how those lives have influenced us, shaped us, and directed our interests and talents.

Cultural maraginality… is the experience typical of people who have been molded by exposure to two or more cultural traditions; they are on the cultural margins, rather than in the mainstream, of each of the cultures that influenced them.  They are people who have considered why they’re different and are comfortable with being so. Indeed, they are grateful for it; they use their difference to strengthen their competence and to maximize their personal success. While they may not feel fully at home, you may feel somewhat at home everywhere – a very important distinction.

The transition from exploration to integration may be very gradual. One day something may remind us of our mobile childhoods, and we realize that we haven’t talked about it recently or reflected lately on its influence on our lives. It’s typically with this kind of hindsight that we understand we’ve completed the exploration our encounter experience sets in motion.

    5.      Identity Recycling: someday the global nomad will have another encounter to do with growing up globally….it will be sufficiently ‘awakening’ that once again she’ll find herself reflecting on how her nationally mobile childhood has influenced her. She’ll again engage in identity exploration, and again move through identity integration.

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Blair in His Own Words


Bill’s Take-Aways  from
Tony  Blaire  A Journey: My Political Life 
 Vintage; Reprint edition, Random House, September 2, 2010; read Feb 2014

from Amazon.com


I picked up this book during a period last year when I was worn out. I needed a diversion from strategizing.  I have enjoyed this book as Tony Blaire writes for the common reader, not to political experts. He writes about things that have had my interest for years, especially the peace in Northern Ireland which in and of itself is brilliant.  I remember seemingly daily news of the violence between Catholics and Protestants that completely bewildered me at the time.  Ironic as it is, I found his writing inspiring me to think about leading and strategy ….     The locations are from the Kindle version of the book.  This is from the first half of the book.

Some of these simply are good advice while others prompted me to think much deeper about what it is I am spending my time on

3742-4 ch 6 Peace in Northern Ireland
The incident raised an interesting reflection on the nature of the PM’s job: you have to absorb a large amount of abuse.  Not crude shouting down or protests, but your motives constantly questioned or traduced, your words misunderstood or misrepresented, your attempts to do good seen as attempts either to further your own interests or even to do bad.

4162 ch 6 Peace in Northern Ireland
In conflict resolution, small things can be big things. This is not just about gripping, it is also about putting aside your view of what is important in favour of theirs.  And not being prissy about finding such things below your pay grade.  Your pay grade covers anything important to the parties you are serving: as defined by them. … if it matters to them, it matters to me.

4184
So the small things matter because in the minds of the key parties, they often loom large with a perspective we can’t always grasp.
<< Application - leading a team & serving & leading  >>

4199
In the creativity, you cannot always think of everything, but you should be wary of doing anything that forfeits trust.

4246 context of having a 3rd party mediate in conflict resolution
The point is the outside party does not just help negotiate and mediate: they act as a buffer, a messenger and, crucially, as a persuader of good faith in a climate usually dominated by distrust.
They also help define issues and indeed turning points.

4281…4286
Realise that for both sides resolving the conflict is a journey,  a process, not an event.  Each side takes time to leave the past behind. … the “ways” have to be “unset” so that change can make progress.

** 4596-4607  ch 7 We govern in Prose, context Chamberlain and the Munich Agreement with Hitler
Chamberlain was a good man, driven by good motives. So what was the error? The mistake was in not recognizing the fundamental question.  And here is the difficulty of leadership: first you have to be able to identify that fundamental question. 
…you might think the question was: can Hitler be contained? That’s what Chamberlain thought. And, on that balance, he thought he could. And rationally, Chamberlain should have been right. Hitler had annexed Austria and Czechoslovakia. He was supreme in Germany. Why not be satisfied?    But that wasn’t the fundamental question. The fundamental question was: does fascism represent a force that is so strong and rooted that it has to be uprooted and destroyed? Put like that, the confrontation was indeed inevitable. The only question was when and how.
In other words, Chamberlain took a narrow and segmented view – Hitler was a leader, Germany a country, 1933 a moment in time: could he be contained? 
Actually, Hitler was the product as well as the author of an ideology that gripped several countries, of which Germany was one. By 1938, fascism was culminating in a force…. [Chamberlain] misunderstood the question and so answered wrongly. 

<  Chamberlains legacy as PM was overshadowed by his failure to prevent Europe from going to war with Hitler, thus making Blaire’s point all the more apropos. -  This begged the question for me  - in my plan of attack to see my end vision reached, have I discerned the right question and thus the most effective course of action?
a.      Compare Continuum of Activities with what I have been doing last several years.
b.      Adjust my activities based on where the work is at in the different areas, thus telling me what needs to happen, where and with whom. 
c.      Translate that into team action  >


4941 ch 8 Kosovo
There was a desire to pacify, but not to resolve.

4948
…to recognize the necessity of the moment and act.

5472 ch 9 Forces of Conservatism
That’s the funning things about decisions as prime minister: some are about doing things, but equally important are those about not doing things. They all come thick and fast, and sometimes you don’t recognize them as decisions. They tend to be the things you say “no” to. 

5652  context: institutional & systems reforms
Structures beget standards. How a service is configured affects outcomes.

6222 ch 10 Managing Crises
…don’t pretend to be other than you are.

6368 context: Opposition
…they didn’t really want us to lose the fight, but a bit of kicking might serve us right.

6735 (social democracy? )
…bring the private sector into the running of public services.

7282-7289  ch 12 9/11 “Shoulder to Shoulder”
Context  -  Islam and her reactions to 9/11
…. [those Muslims] who condemn the terrorists and their world view.  But…even this group have not yet confidently found their way to articulating a thoroughly reformed and modernizing view of Islam.  In other words, it is true they find the terrorism repugnant and they wish to be in alliance with the Western nations against it, but this does not yet translate into an alternative narrative for Islam that makes sense of its history and provides a coherent vision for its future. What this means is that very often countries in the Arab and Muslim world will offer their people a disconcerting and ultimately self-defeating choice between a ruling elite with the right idea, but which they are reluctant or fearful to advertise, and a popular movement with the wrong one, which they are all too keen to proclaim.

...it’s a fundamental struggle for the mind, heart and soul of Islam.